Unicorns, Bulls and Dragons

Many of the couples in the lifestyle seek single women, often referred to as Unicorns, predominantly due to how hard it can be to find one.

Some seek Dragons, single males who are also Bi.

Others seek Bulls, single males to join in MFM threesomes or in cuckold scenarios.

Finding people who fall into these monikers can be difficult, especially online as it is crucial that they feel not only safe with both of you, but also have a mutual sexual attraction and chemistry with a couple.

As is often the case, the online interactions are often conducted by the male in a couple, for a litany of legitimate reasons, however, this can also see miscommunication or impatience shooting down setting up a meet.

Setting up in person meets is crucial as a stepping stone for seeing if things escalate to play, the “wanna hook up” type approach is often a sure way to ruin any chances of fun, as is relentless messages that can come across as desperate.

Another factor is ensuring that they are genuine. The online world does allow many to misrepresent themselves as something they are not, with single males pretending to be females, the “bi curious” males using that to try and get ccess to the female in a relationship, and many single males often ghost at the last minute as meeting up is not what they seek, it is more the online fantasy world that floats their particular boat.

Only engaging with verified profiles can definitely help narrow down the fakes and flakes. Another tried and tested way is meeting people at parties and meet and greets in person, therefore circumventing the online ping pong and digital noise that many of us have no time for. Finding actual chemistry is a major step towards a potential playdate.

What sort of tips and tricks do you utilise and in particular, from any singles, what are the factors that have you interested in meeting and eventually playing? And what do you hate, what turns you off pursuing any further engagement?

And what ground rules do you have in place? Play at home or perhaps a hotel, who pays for the hotel room if that is the case?