Stepping into your first lifestyle event — whether a meet & greet or a full party — can feel equal parts exciting and terrifying. Luckily, the lifestyle community is full of warm, welcoming people… as long as you show up with respect, good manners, and a willingness to actually engage.
Here’s how to make the most of it — and avoid hiding in the corner like a shy houseplant.
Start With Meet & Greets
Meet & greets are the training wheels of the lifestyle world.
No pressure. No expectations. No “oops, I didn’t know the dress code was lingerie.”
They’re:
- Social
- Safe
- Perfect for newcomers
- Packed with people happy to answer questions
- A great way to see how people behave outside the fantasy
And bonus: if you hit it off with people here, future events become 10x more fun (and less awkward).
Your First Party: What to Expect
Not all parties are the same, but most follow a few common rules:
- Respect consent like it’s oxygen
- Use your words
- Don’t hover
- No means no — and anything other than clear enthusiasm also means no
You don’t need to “do anything” your first time. Many people attend just to observe and learn the vibe.
How to Behave (and Be Someone People Want to Play With)
A few golden guidelines:
- Introduce yourself confidently
You don’t need to be a supermodel — just friendly and relaxed. - Don’t be a wallflower
If you hide in the corner, people will assume you want to be left alone.
If you want to meet people, you’ve got to… meet people. - Compliment respectfully
Not “nice tits.”
Try “you look fantastic tonight.” - Respect boundaries immediately
Pushiness = instant disqualification. - Fresh breath. Always.
Mint up like it’s an Olympic sport.
Things to Watch Out For
Even good events can attract the occasional bad apple.
Be aware of:
- People who ignore consent
- Drunk or sloppy behaviour
- People who hover but never speak
- Anyone who tries to corner someone for private play without their partner
Good organisers remove these types quickly — which is why choosing reputable events matters.
Final Thought
Showing up is the first step.
Engaging is the second.
Acting like a decent human is the third.
Follow those three, and you’ll be welcomed, remembered, and invited back again.
The NLM Events 
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